theme

A very popular theme existing in this memoir is that of freedom, nonconformity, and self-sufficiency as a means of reaching one’s fullest potential. This idea, greatly emphasized by Jeannette’s parents, Rex and Rose Mary, can be seen as both positive and negative in regards to the way Rex and Rose Mary raised their children. All throughout Jeannette’s life (as well as for her brother and sisters), she was forced to fend for herself despite all circumstances, learn from some very traumatic mistakes, and stand strong against the “accepted” ways of life. Rose Mary felt that “rules and discipline held people back and felt that the best way to let children fulfill their potential was by providing freedom” (73). There were very few rules that the Walls children were told to obey, which left ample room for the children to become involved in dangerous situations, which they often did. Many feel that this was very irresponsible of the parents and could even be considered child abuse. In other instances, however, some find their beliefs to be logical, natural, and liberating. Jeannette stated, “Mom and Dad liked to make a big point about never surrendering to fear or to prejudice or to the narrow-minded conformist sticks-in-the-mud,” which does make a great deal of sense, but can also be taken too far (103). By including these examples, the author was able to simultaneously illustrate the flaws and strengths of Rex and Rose Mary’s parenting. These ideals allow an individual to develop as a strong and independent human being, but too much leniency and nonconformity will also cause a person to develop psychological hindrances and feel scarred and neglected. This is exactly what Jeannette went through growing up with parents that acted in this way. Jeannette was trying to convey her story by allowing readers to understand the way she was brought up and the extraordinary qualities of her parents whom she accepts and loves dearly. She is not looking for empathy, but a real human connection and an honest understanding of her life.